Last night in my small group we were talking about how your spouse will let you down every now & then, and that it’s better to expect it than to get womped in the face when you realize that he or she is not perfect.
We’re going through a great book by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend called, “Rescue Your Love Life.”

It reminded me of a post I wrote and a talk I listened to before Jeremy and I got married. In fact, about a year before we were engaged. It’s a talk called, “How to Avoid Marital Failure” the talk is excellent.
Here is the re-post:
I have this little audio clip from Alistair Begg that Jeremy sent me days after we met. So interesting that now I will be marrying the guy that sent me a clip titled “How to Avoid Marital Failure.” Nonetheless, these little nuggets of wisdom ring so true to me that I thought I’d share them with the blog world.
Before Alistair launches into his main clip about marriage, he first addresses the single population, speaking very highly of them, challenging them to pray for the marriages around them. That God uses singles to minister to marrieds more often than you might think.
Here are the ways to avoid marital failure according to Alistair Begg:
1.Do not be so foolish as if to maintain as if it could not happen to you.
2.Do not allow the business of life to disguise neglect
3.Don’t make the mistake of taking each other for granted
4.Be daily in prayer for the health of your marriage and the harmony of your home
5.Be sacrificial in the expression of your love for each other
6.Be imaginative, daring and occassionaly extravagant in displaying your affection (he adds righteousness is not a synonym for boring)
7.Be sure you don’t use your children as the glue that holds you or the wedge that separates you.
8.Be ruthless in resisting anyone and anything that will draw your affections from each other.
9.Be ready to listen to and ready to speak about whats going on inside each other’s heads.
10.Be certain that a great marriage is possible with divine enabling and human effort.
11.Be aware of how quickly time is passing and seize the day.
Audio below:
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Thoughts?